Sometimes having a baby can consume so much time and energy that the parents forget about having time to themselves. As a military family (or just families who move to different areas) it’s kind of hard to get alone time because we don’t have family around to watch the baby. So when my mother in law was planning to come down and told me to plan a date night, I didn’t hesitate. Lol! (When someone comes to town and offers, DO NOT SAY NO!) I know it’s hard to get away from your baby when you are used to doing for him/her every day all day, but that’s exactly why you need to. Especially with your spouse/significant other if it’s not often that you’re able to. Once my mother in law told me to plan a date night, I did what I do best, PINTEREST! Lol!
I consider myself an extra person. Lol! So, I definitely wasn’t trying to do a movie night or just dinner. I thought it would be cool to do something interactive. (And a lot of you suggested the same which I truly appreciate!) I had a bunch of different things in mind. Wine tasting, going to a brewery, Top Golf, laser tagging, all kinds of stuff. We decided on Top Golf. I remember when I was pregnant, we passed this place and said we would go once I had the baby so it was a perfect time to follow up on that! Originally, I wanted to go somewhere I would wear some heels and just get sexy. Haha. And then I thought, I don’t need to do all of that at Top Golf. And instead, let’s make it a silly/fun/get my first glass of wine in since I pumped kinda night. That’s who Joel and I are/were before the baby. I was excited. I felt like this was back before the baby when we would randomly go to a bar and get wasted! Lol! Joel is really one of my best friends. Haha. Anywho, so Top Golf it was!
This was my first time golfing ever so it was pretty cool to do it with Joel. First we ate at the bar and then we spent an hour golfing. I suck and Joel thinks he’s Tiger Woods. (When it comes to golfing not marriage lol) I didn’t start hitting any balls until it was time to go. Lol! I had my very first drink. A mini Corona. (I’m actually a beer lover so I was hype) I was too nervous to drink anything else or anymore. Plus, Joel was training for a marathon and he wasn’t drinking so it was boring to drink alone. It was my first drink after 11 months. Crazy! I did not have a drink in almost a year. That sounds crazy to say knowing my past lifestyle. Haha. Our first date night was one to remember! I love our little family but I am definitely looking forward to us having our time as well. It brings me back to how we got to where we are today.
Here are some first date night after having a baby tips/ideas:
- Go! It’s so easy to say “no it’s okay” when you’re offered to have a date night. Don’t say no, GO! It is needed!
- Doing something interactive. After having a baby and barely getting sleep, going to the movies or just dinner, can be boring AND put you guys to sleep. Face it, you don’t have your baby and you can finally rest, who wouldn’t? But the purpose of your date night is to get that time in with your spouse/significant other while you don’t have the baby. Do something different/fun!
- PINTEREST! This is another one of my best friends. There are so many date ideas to make it fun, different, and even cheap! I’ve actually created a date night board that you can check out on my Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/Kenniquamona/
- Remember, your night out is not about money. You guys just had a baby and they are not cheap. It is all about the time spent! So, don’t stress yourselves out or neglect the date because “everything is too expensive”. Do something that’s cheap or FREE! (There are some free date night ideas on my Pinterest board as well!)
- Make it about THE TWO OF YOU! If there’s a nice scenery you want to capture, or you guys want to get someone to take a picture of you two– cool! But, besides that, use this time for each other. Put your phones away, have conversations, catch up!
Did you have your first date night after baby yet? Any other tips/ideas you have to share? I would love to hear about them and you might help someone else! Share below! Always remember, like, comment, share!